Not too long ago, I was in a discussion
in which some female friends asserted that this was a woman’s world and
that men just live in it. I could not but agree with them. These were
ladies who had never lacked anything in their lives. They came from what
you would call privileged backgrounds. They did not know what it meant
for a father to refuse to send a girl-child to school because the family
could not afford to pay the fees of all the children, and since a girl
would get married and take another man’s name, she could as well make
the sacrifice for her male sibling.
They grew up seeing their fathers pander
to every desire of their mothers. They were ferried to school out of
Nigeria very early and never experienced the deprivations that girls
suffer when they manage to make it to school. They grew up to the beck
and call of loads of drivers, stewards, nannies and bodyguards. In the
very unlikely event of a car ever breaking down, the driver broke the
sweat or at worst, they called dad, or brother or boyfriend or lately,
husband to come and deal with it while they hopped on the next taxi
home, even unable to wait for another driver to pick them up.
Marriage to people like these is nothing
more than a contract or business relationship. If it works, so be it, if
not, what the heck. There are no eternal sacrifices. The guy would not
dare raise his hands against them and they never worry about
infidelities or any other kind of misbehaviour. “Let him just try it”,
they would say, assuring you that he would pay heavily for it in such a
way that he possibly would never recover.
So how do you blame these kinds of people
when they say that the world belongs to them? They live in a world
which is oblivious of the travails that poor sisters suffer all over the
world. They are insulated from the stories of millions of girl-children
who are out of school all over the world. They very likely never heard
of the story of 12-year-old Malala Yousafzai, who was shot and left for
dead by Pakistani extremists for daring to speak up for education. They
do not hear of girls, barely out of diapers, who are forced into
marriage. They do not know about women who have suffered untold
consequences from philandering husbands, women who have lost their lives
from the physical, emotional and psychological abuses from men. They do
not know about diseases that ravage women as a result of forced
marriage or the risks that hundreds of thousands of women are exposed to
just because they get pregnant and are about to bring children forth.
They do not seek employment from anyone neither are they interested in
politics and so they are unaware of the reality of the glass ceiling or
the discrimination that limits the aspirations of women. They are just
in a world of their own and cannot empathise with women who are not in
luck as they are.
But in the real world where you and I
live, life is much harder for the female gender. dosomething.com, a
United States of America- based not-for-profit platform for young people
and social change, quoting Amnesty International, gives some statistics
that we should consider. In an article entitled: “11 facts about women
around the world”, the platform informed that one woman dies from
pregnancy or childbirth every 90 seconds in the world with about 80 per
cent of these deaths, which mostly happen in developing countries,
preventable.
The report also indicates that violence
against women increases during pregnancy and that women make up 80 per
cent of all refugees and displaced people all over the world. This
implies that Instruments of genocide such as sexual violence and rape
are often directed at women and girls.
The report goes further to show that in
spite of the fact that women make about 50 per cent of the global
population, they fill less than 20 per cent of parliamentary seats all
over the world.
While more than 16.4 million women are
infected with HIV/AIDS in the world, the report showed that girls are
five more times likely to be HIV-positive than boys, just as women make
the majority of persons smuggled illegally across country borders with a
large number sold into the sex industry by their family members.
Possibly most striking is the report that
women account for 70 per cent of the global population living in
absolute poverty meaning less than $1.00 a day. How then can it be a
woman’s world?
Those at home with the situation of
things in Nigeria would very readily agree to the fact that things are
difficult for the female gender here. Just two days ago, The PUNCH
published the report of a man who confessed to having raped his daughter
because a spirit told him to do so, so bizarre is the rate at which
incest occurs in our society these days. This current story is happening
while Nigerians are just recovering from the shocking experience of the
torture and sodomizing of three ladies in the Ejigbo area of Lagos
about one year ago. One of the women eventually lost her life as a
result of the severity of the torture.
According to the Society of Gynaecology
and Obstetrics of Nigeria, an average of 45 women died from pregnancy
complications everyday between January and March 2013. This makes
Nigeria possibly the worst case of maternal deaths in the world. It is
also important to note that for every maternal death, twenty other women
suffer short or long-term disabilities like obstetric fistula, ruptured
uterus, paralysis and other complications.
Experts believe that these mortalities
and morbidities are largely due to poverty and lack of education which
manifest in malnutrition, harmful traditional beliefs, ignorance, lack
of access to hospitals and skilled personnel among many others.
So what is Nigeria doing to improve the
access of women to education knowing that education would make girls
knowledgeable family planners, competent mothers, more productive and
better paid workers, informed citizens, confident individuals and
skilful decision makers? I would say not much at the moment.
Between 60 and 70 per cent of the 46
million illiterate adults in Nigeria are believed to be women. And of
the 10.5 million children who are said to be out of school in Nigeria,
it is believed that not less than 60 per cent are girls. How this would
improve in the very near future is totally uncertain especially given
that most of the girls who are currently out of school in Nigeria are
from the northern part of the country where the Boko Haram insurgency
and traditional practices like child marriage make any educational
revolution unlikely.
But that can only continue for long to
the eternal peril of our nation. As former United States Secretary of
State, Hillary Clinton, wrote in her preface to “Global Women’s Issues:
Women in the World Today”, a publication of the US Department of States
Bureau of International Information Programmes, not giving women, equal
opportunities to grow “…offends our basic sense of justice and
fairness. But it is unacceptable for another reason too — because it
keeps countries from making real progress in creating jobs, sparking
economic growth and giving all their people an opportunity to create a
better future. No country can advance when half its population is left
behind. In short, women around the world sustain families, build
communities and knit the social fabric together”
As we celebrate another edition of the
International Women’s Day on Saturday, I suggest that we all reflect on
ways in which we can inspire change towards positively affecting the
issues that militate against the progress of women. The National
Assembly should pass the Violence Against Persons and Gender Equality
Opportunity Bills currently before it even as the executive arm at the
three levels of government must redouble effort at reducing the burden
of illiteracy in the land. For any country to attain its potential in
today’s world, all hands, whether they belong to men or to women must be
on deck and Nigeria cannot be an exception.
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